HOW TO DECLUTTER YOUR MIND AND DETOX OVERWHELM

Podcast #316 

This week on The Confidence Podcast we’re chatting about:

• How to Marie Kondo Your Mind (and organized and simple process)
• What overwhelm is actually doing to your confidence and your life
• The secret to continual tidying up of the mind

REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

Bambi K

Trish I just recently came across your podcast and I wish I had found it earlier. I instantly started binge listening to it and every single episode speaks to me. Being a perfectionist, recovering from an eating disorder from multiple relapses, and having no self-esteem or confidence, your podcast is changing my life. I started to challenge myself to dare to do things, to not care what other people think and it feels amazing. Even my husband keeps mentioning how (unusually) confidence I am lately. I am so grateful for you and we need more people like you in this world.

This makes me think about my girl, Lourdes from The College of Confidence who recently shared:

Hi Trish!
My hubby of 39 years complimented me today..

“ You have become solid! I’m so proud of your progress!”

Thank you Trish, my sister, I’m having so many, many Mermaid Martini Moments!

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HOW TO MAIRE KONDO YOUR MIND

It’s organized, simple and systematic.

With tidying up, come clean and open space and the ability to enjoy life.

“When deciding what to buy, remember that some things are easy to buy—but then we have to use them. If they’re not used, they don’t enhance our lives; they just contribute to guilt and clutter.”  -Gretchen Rubin

The objective of cleaning is not just to clean, but to feel happiness living within that environment. -Marie Kondo

To truly cherish the things that are important to you, you must first discard those that have outlived their purpose. And if you no longer need them, then that is neither wasteful nor shameful. Can you truthfully say that you treasure something buried so deeply in a cupboard or drawer that you have forgotten its existence? -Marie Kondo

Have gratitude for the things you’re discarding. By giving gratitude, you’re giving closure to the relationship with that object, and by doing so, it becomes a lot easier to let go. -Marie Kondo

Effective tidying involves only three essential actions. All you need to do is take the time to examine every item you own, decide whether or not you want to keep it, then choose where to put what you keep. Designate a place for each thing. Marie Kondo

What does your mind actually look like? 

Clean and organized?

Open and airy?

Cluttered and confusing?

Dumping ground and outdated?

Simple KonMari Method for the Mind:

Cut down on what you bring in.

Get rid of what doesn’t bring you joy.

Have a daily system that works.

Respect your space and live well in it.

Do consistent tidying up daily.

Update and revamp your system as needed.

Analyze and assess every thought.

WHAT OVERWHELM IS ACTUALLY DOING IN YOUR LIFE

(It’s bad!)

A cluttered mind leads to massive overwhelm.

Overwhelm = “to pour down upon”

It is a symptom of anxiety and anxiety is an expression of unmanaged control and faith.

Overwhelm can trigger feelings that make you feel:

-depressed

-anxious

-helpless

-behind

-pathetic

-stuck

-shame

Feelings are indicators, not dictators. -Lysa TerKeurst 

(For my podcast episode where I interview Lysa, listen to episode #99 of The Confidence Podcast at www.trishblackwell.com/99)

In my life, overwhelm made me feel unworthy and incapable. Those feelings became pervasive and perpetuated the toxic behaviors of perfectionism, driving me to earn my worth by getting the approval of others through achievements or by being generally as likable as possible. The fake efforts and emptiness I felt as a byproduct from this approach almost wrecked my soul.

Now I know that overwhelm is a symptom. A pain point. A giant red flag that indicates to me that something deeper is going on. It’s my responsibility as to whether or not I pay attention to it. When that flag raises in my life I have learned that it means I am either not connecting with God, trying to do it all on my own, worried too much about the opinions of others, putting too many expectations on my own plate, irresponsibly managing my time, confusing my preferences with my priorities, trying to prove something to someone, not recharging myself properly, avoiding something scary that needs to be done …

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THE SECRET TO CONTINUAL MENTAL TIDYING UP 

Do less, live more. 

Here are some ways to do that: 

Have a personal mission statement that is your daily to-do list.

Create more boundaries.

The Last 90 Minutes Routine

Sunday brain dump

Morning routine

Champagne moments journaling

Plugging into the source daily

Focusing on words and your power with them, not feelings or fears.

Have a coach to check in with to manage your mindset.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE 

Ashley Gill 

I’ve just started listening to you and so far I am in love!! I have a huge problem with my confidence and just listening to one episode and it has me already telling myself I can do this!!