BODY CONFIDENCE IN A WAY YOU’VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT
This week on The Confidence Podcast, we’re chatting about:
- How to use touch to get back in touch with your body
- Understanding what about your body is really tripping you up or keeping you down
- The switch that changed my stress-levels about my body
This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost.
That little voice inside that’s telling you-you’re not enough? It’s lying. It’s mean. It’s a bully. And it’s keeping you from the life God created you to live. I say “no more!” My self-bully used to shame me. It kept me small, scared and in a state of self-sabotage. Then I got tired of it, and I learned how to stand up to the bully. I’ll teach you the step-by-step process to start doing the same thing.
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Swidz! “Obsessed with Trish”
I’ve been meaning to write a review for a WHILE now. Trish Blackwell is an absolutely incredible person and confidence coach. Whenever I am feeling down, I immediately turn to her positive words of encouragement and it immediately brightens my day. She is real and doesn’t hold back from sharing her struggles from her past and day to day life. My sister found this podcast when she was going through a very tough time in her life and shared it with me. And I can say with confidence that this podcast saved her and I cannot thank Trish enough for that. Through tough days or good days, Trish is a voice to be listened to! She’s a superstar and I am forever grateful for her. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
HOW TO USE TOUCH TO GET BACK IN TOUCH WITH YOUR BODY
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. But are you treating your body that way?
Do you really appreciate your body for the miracle it is? For the wondrous things, it does?
Touch and thank-you technique.
- Touch a body part.
- Thank God for creating this part of you.
- Thank your body for being your body.
- Touch and say thank you specifically for how this part looks.
- Touch and say thank you specifically for something this part allows you to do.
Move onto the next body part.
A few other touch methods.
> Lotion and self-acceptance love
> Two-hand heart touch + speaking to your inner child.
> Stretch and touch with breath work.
UNDERSTANDING WHAT ABOUT YOUR BODY IS REALLY TRIPPING YOU UP OR KEEPING YOU DOWN
What story have you told yourself about yourself?
Do you really see yourself as others see you?
What would happen if you got a professional photo shoot done?
How would the people who love you the most describe your body?
What would happen if you just accepted yourself?
Are you afraid to let go of your own self-hate?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to be dissatisfied?
How is not liking your body serving you? What is it doing for you?
Do you really want to change and to feel free, or do you like the comfort of having this be your main problem and main excuse?
What facade is your body image issue really protecting you from?
I didn’t think loving my body or being healthy was allowed to be easy.
I felt uncomfortable liking my body, because what if no one else thought I was okay and I did?
I liked hiding from my real pain by numbing myself with body loathing.
THE SWITCH THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING FOR ME
Focus on what your body does and how it feels, not on what it looks like.
I want to snowboard when I’m 77.
I want to run marathons into my 80s.
I want to play with my children.
I want to feel my breath move through my body.
I want to maintain my mobility and have fun with my body.
Also, another revolutionizing thing for me was realizing that no-one cared about my body as much as I thought they did. Literally, I created an obsession and a measure of worth around something no one else was judging me on. As a result, I lost years of my life and had years of self-hatred, self-harm, and anxiety. All for an imagined and self-imposed pressure.
The happiest bodies are the bodies that are cared for and loved.
In order to love and care for my body, I had to start seeing it as something worthy of care.
I know you’re probably thinking about the growth you want. But how often have you thought about something, and started going towards it, but felt lost, overwhelmed and uncertain about whether or not you were in the right direction or if you could do it.
This happens all the time. Sister, you are not alone.
I want you to know that I get it, and I was there too. That’s why I so love working with you because I get the struggle.
Honestly, I need to confess to you: three people in the last twelve hours told me “Trish, you don’t get it, your life is perfect.” Y’all. It’s not. I have been to the pit and back. I have fought addiction, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, abuse, financial devastation, failure, insecurity, crippling fear and perfectionism, social anxiety, sexual assault, and my deathbed twice – flashes of my life before my eyes.
And yet, I stand here before you, telling you that life is beautiful, and God loves you, and He works miracles through our messes. His power is most glorified through our weaknesses, and I hope that you see that my story is a humble example of just that.
So, stop trying to do this all on your own, okay? You don’t have to be a hero. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. You don’t need to figure this out on your own. You don’t need to stay stuck.
Let’s walk this transformation and renewal of your mind together. I want to walk alongside you. I want to cheer you on. I want to push you when you want to give up. I want to remind you that you can finish what you start, which is exactly what I am doing with my members in The College of Confidence.
Join today and get access to this month’s course, “How to Finish What You Start,” join me face-to-face for some personal coaching in our live calls and let’s stop thinking about changing and start the process of actually moving the needle forward. Whether you want to work on your personal confidence, your social confidence or your professional/entrepreneurial confidence, there is a membership option for you, with membership rates starting at a mere $20. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com
LISTENERS OF THE EPISODE:
I want to start by saying thank you for everything you do. I’m not sure how many young listeners you have, but I stumbled upon your podcast the summer before my freshman year of high school. I had just finished a difficult 8th-grade year where I struggled with orthorexia, which led me to an endless comparison, and ultimately distanced me from my friends. I was unhealthy, unconfident, alone, and stuck. I searched everywhere for help, and eventually found your podcast. Just a few minutes in, I was hooked. I started listening to one episode every day, and little by little, I began to heal. Towards the end of the summer, I made a decision to attend a Catholic high school. Listening to your podcast, I was inspired to strengthen my faith and trust that God would help me heal. The fresh start at a new school gave me the opportunity to change my attitude, and to start living a life full of confidence, openness, and love. I made a conscious decision to find freedom with food, to stop comparing my body with everyone else’s, and to really connect with those around me and build solid friendships based on love. Your podcasts helped me get through the struggles of changing my mindset and encouraged me that I was doing better than I thought I was. Two and a half years later, I’m in the second semester of my junior year of high school. I have made some wonderful friends at my school, I am in the habit of doing one thing every day that scares me, and the idea of eating a piece of pizza no longer scares me. I have come to love my body and grown closer to God over these past years. I am still a work in progress, but a confident one. I still listen to your podcast often and I love to hear your voice. You are truly a blessing from God and a voice of assurance in my life. Thank you again and I hope that you and your family are doing well.