OVERWHELM IS POISONING YOU – HOW TO STOP IT 

Podcast #307

This week on The Confidence Podcast, we’re chatting about:

• Overwhelm, what is it and how is it poisoning you?
• Finding the definition of overwhelm
• How does the poison of overwhelm work?
• 7 things you can do to stop overwhelm, starting today.

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OVERWHELM, WHAT IS IT AND HOW IS IT POISONING YOU?

It’s a victim mindset. A mindset that says things are happening to you, rather than you are living your life through a set of circumstances.

Overwhelm is fear-based.

It’s a result of poor time management, lack of prioritization, perfectionistic expectations, people pleasing, performance-based-worth life theories.

It happens from not thinking intentionally – it’s careless thinking.

It happens when we step away from faith and try to do it all on our own … whether that is simply not asking for help from others and being a control freak, or if it means that we’re not reaching out to the God of the universe, the all-powerful, all-knowing, all-present, all-loving God who created us and who wants to walk alongside us.

Take yourself out of the “I’m so overwhelmed state”

There will always be “things” to do – the option to “feel behind” or “not enough” will always be a choice. Most people choose this choice, but will you choose the road less traveled?

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves, no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

-Robert Frost

HOW DOES OVERWHELM’S POISON WORK?

It convinces you of time scarcity.

It makes you feel like an impostor and unworthy.

It makes you small and scared.

It makes everything twice as hard as it actually is.

It is an emotional arsonist.

It aggravates your thinking and efficiency, challenging your self-confidence.

It disrupts your action taking, inciting procrastination behaviors and beliefs.

It puts you in a place of permanent pause.

HOW TO STOP IT – 7 THINGS YOU CAN DO TODAY.

1. Dwell on what you really want – what is a satisfying life. 

What are you chasing? What matters to you? What makes you feel good?

2. Know that you are loved and enough.

This will free you from chasing your tail and trying to prove yourself.

3. Get obsessed with two-minute increments in your life.

Action is the first step to disturbing overwhelm. Action doesn’t have to be big – by focusing on small moments of action, you are always going to be a state of winning.

4. Write at the beginning of your day and  end of your day.

Track your wins, note your focuses, have good/better/best goals, or A/B/C productivity focuses, keep your objectives and purpose simple, don’t spread yourself thin, celebrate your champagne moments, talk and write to God, ground yourself in gratitude and plan out your next day – prove to yourself that you are in charge of your time.

5. Get out of comparison mode. 

Looking around at others will only bring you down and fire up your need to do more. Stay in your lane, stay in growth and gratitude and really dive into what a rich and satisfying life (John 10:10 life) really is.

6. Stop doing so much!

Give yourself permission to stop doing some things, to outsource out other things, to say no to things you think you “should” be doing and to believe that you have to live on the go-go-go. Being busy does not make you more loved, more successful, or more important.

7. Refuse to say that four-letter word “busy”

Busy is a choice. Really, it’s a four-letter word and I refuse to let it into my life.  I know it sounds chintzy, but “busy” really is a choice. It’s a choice you make every single day…and it’s not making your life better.

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

About four years ago I made a commitment to never say I was busy again. It dramatically changed my life.

I choose to never be busy.

Now, I have a full schedule, no doubt. Often, every minute of my day is scheduled or planned out, but it’s not busy.  Because busy is a state of mind, not a state of being.

It all comes down to your relationship with your thoughts.

When I lived in a state of busy, I always felt behind, never felt enough and was always just a little stressed out. Being busy zapped my energy and my confidence.  It was no way to live and I needed a way out.

I found it, and you can too.

I’ve learned to not be busy by always knowing, and trusting that I will finish what I start. Self-trust in this way comes from a deep sense of self-confidence, which is where I come in as your confidence coach.  I am not stressed anymore about my goals because I have reframed my thinking to always know that I am someone who does what I say I am going to do.  This isn’t about “time management,” it’s about “thought management” and “priority management,” and that’s all part of what I do with my work as a confidence coach.

I released a new course this month called Finishing What You Start and it’s free for my members of The College of Confidence.

>>> Busy isn’t about time-management, it’s about thought-management, self-confidence and self-trust; I’ll teach you the steps to eliminating that “busy feeling” from your life! (Click here to get access to the course in The College of Confidence)

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NOTES ON FAILURE:

Y’all. Failure is something to be chased, pursued, not avoided.

Rewiring how I viewed failure changed my level of success, personal breakthrough, and, more importantly, happiness.

My new view of failure gives me boldness and permission.

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