HOW TO BELIEVE THAT WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU DO MATTERS

PODCAST #281

In this week’s episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

• Silencing self-doubt and the fear that you’re “not enough” or that you’re not doing enough
• How to unravel the spiral of emotions that got you to a place of self-doubt or “not enough” in the first place
• One simple, very easy way to find freedom and fuel up your confidence 

SPONSORSHIP NOTE:

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WHY DO WE NOT BELIEVE WE HAVE VALUE IN THE FIRST PLACE?

I think we lose sight of our value for multiple reasons:

• comparison
• overwhelm
• purposelessness / underwhelm

HOW IS IT THAT WE CAN SO EASILY FORGET WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE?

We get distracted.

We forget to prioritize what matters.

We lose ourselves in comparison.

How do I fight these things?

I work at it.

I work at simplification.

I work at slowing down.

I work at filling the buckets that matter to me every day.

1. God / my soul
2. Brandon / my Marriage
3. Ellie and Baker / my children
4. Me / my Health (physical, emotional, intellectual, social)
5. Others / my business, my neighbors, etc.

Said another way I ask myself

-Did I fill my soul today?

-Did I fail today?

-Did I grow today?

-Did I learn today?

-Did I show up today?

-Did I laugh today?

-Did I love today?

Said yet another way –

Did I learn, did I love?

Said yet another way –

Did I read a book?

Did I spend time with God / worship / give thanks?

Did I write?

Did I laugh and love with my children?

Did I spend quality time with my husband?

Did I engage my creativity and heart in my business?

Did I help others or encourage anyone?

Boiled down, for me it’s really: loving and learning.

I wasted years doing what didn’t matter; I want to live differently. I want to live in such a way that is a terrific adventure. A life that makes a difference. A freed soul.

Here’s what I know: love is all that matters.

Live and lead with love – in your personal life, in your business, in your fitness / health pursuits, in your relationships, etc … in everything, and you will never feel unfulfilled. Love never runs out, it multiples.

TO BELIEVE THAT YOU REALLY MATTER, I SUGGEST THAT YOU GO BACK TO WHAT REALLY MATTERS: LOVE.

You were created in love, by a being who is love, and for love.

Our hearts are filled when we spread love; when we walk in our calling / when we show up as our best selves and we shine light into the places and lives in this world that need hope and encouragement.

So, you don’t matter because of what you do, who you were born to, where you live, what you have accomplished, how much you weigh, how funny you are or not, how many friends you have or how much money you make (or how “successful” you are, because what is success really, who measures it?); you matter because you are loved and you have the capacity to increase the light of love in this world by simply shining.

-share some of Baker’s experience

-the love of strangers

-you never know someone’s story

-little things have an impact and you never know when they have a small impact or a colossal one

-the nurses i won’t forget

-on the outside people are tough, you never know what is going on inside

-love is always the right thing – and it isn’t always convenient (tom showing up)

If you act with love, you are changing the world.

If you spread a smile, it gets passed on for miles (could your smile go around the world?)

Tune out the lie that you don’t matter; you are not lost in a sea of people – there is a sea of people around whom you are swimming and who need your light and encouragement.

I am moved by and inspired by kindness, by generosity, by courage, by hope, by optimism.

What are the traits that move or inspire you?

What can do you today to love more? What will you do tomorrow to love more?

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

We all need community. We all need a coach. We all need to be pushed and held accountable to keep showing up as our best version of ourselves, and well, you’ve found all that you need in The College of Confidence. Listen, you might be surprised to hear that more people “think” about joining the COC than actually join.  I get it. It’s hard to take the plunge into a coach and a community, but seriously, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain …. you can think about the COC as an online mastermind for go-getters who want to share ideas, be coached, be cheered on an be challenged. And, you seriously get tons of one-on-one time with me. Seriously, so stop “thinking about it” an take action today – the world needs you as your best, most connected and encouraged self, which you can be with ease by connecting with me in the COC. Join at www.trishblackwell.com/college

I’m unofficially starting to launch a high-level mastermind for motivated mombosses.  I am limiting the group to 8 people and it will be an application process only.  We will be starting late Fall or early 2019, but I will be taking applications starting in September, so if you are interested in applying, email me at trish@trishblackwell.com.   The mastermind will include individual and group coaching, online as well as in person, with the goal to help you double your revenue and double your free time at the same time so that you can be both a better, more present mom and a better, more productive entrepreneur.  I’m already dreaming about what the retreat weekends are going to look like for us and can’t wait to make this happen – it will be lifestyle changing and business changing!  Qualifications: you must have clear revenue business goals, you must have clear lifestyle goals for you and your family, and you must be willing to prioritize this mastermind with a year-long commitment.

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Hey team Trish! I am such a huge fan. I did this last year with some of my friends and we really got a lot out of it. I’m doing a refresher this week because I could use the help.

I wanted to let you know there’s a typo in this e-mail. V minor but I figured I’d want someone to tell me.

2. Set youmindset daily by prioritizing actions of gratitude.

Okay I hope you’ll forgive me for being one of *those* people.

Thanks again for all you do.

Warmly,

Alex

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