HOW TO AVOID THE LONELINESS PITFALL AS AN ENTREPRENEUR

EPISODE #280

In this week’s episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

• Understanding why we get lonely or feel overwhelmed as we pursue building our dream businesses
• Avoiding the stagnating pitfalls that can come with loneliness and knowing your own personal triggers
• Taking strategic action to avoid the loneliness pitfall and to connect in more authentic ways

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QUOTES ON LONELINESS:

Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self. (May Sarton)
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change. (Gretchen Rubin)

We have all known the long loneliness, and we have found that the answer is community. (Dorothy Day)

FIRST, UNDERSTAND WHY WE GET LONELY IN THE FIRST PLACE

This can be multifaceted.

1). No one “gets” our vision

2). We work alone or we lead others and don’t feel like we have peers.

3). Leadership and pouring into a dream can be emotionally exhausting (we need to recharge with more intentionality than most people)

SECOND, KNOW WHAT LONELINESS DOES TO YOU 

For everyone it’s a little different, but some of the ways loneliness expresses itself negatively is:

-Lack of motivation

-Procrastination

-Isolation

-Loss of passion

-Feelings of inadequacy

-Boredom

-Feelings of overwhelm or underwhelm

-Self-induced pity-parties (no one works as hard as me, I’m the only one who doesn’t get this, etc. / pity self-isolates)

FINALLY, BE PROACTIVE ABOUT FIGHTING LONELY VIBES

Don’t be embarrassed that you’re lonely. It’s a natural human experience. Take action on what you can do and know that in doing so, you are better equipping yourself to thrive through your work.

Get out and connect with others.

Outsource and delegate when and where you can.

Work in public spaces.

Create real relationships online.

Invest in deep relationships in person.

Get involved in a mastermind.

Hire a coach.

Share your dreams and wins/whoas with your partner.

Know your WHY to why you do what you do.

Focus on the people you are positively impacting, even if you can’t see them. Every number is a name and every name has a story.

Read and connect with stories that spark your imagination and your drive (both fiction and non-fiction)

Be a good neighbor.

Focus on real connection.

Focus on slowing down and creating margin.

Focus on abundance.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Thank you doesn’t seem enough. I’m a strong, smart & successful working mum. I’ve shattered many glass ceilings in my life & in most cases bet the odds… BUT I’m still growing & self doubt is a constant battle. Thank god for you. Your words sink in & lift me out of my negative thoughts. It’s the self-care I turn to when the battle is wearing me down. Keep showing up. You are having an impact across the world (even down under!).

-Kristie Keltie