In this episode of#TheConfidencePodcastwe are chatting about:

  • The secret I first discovered in France – and just went back to revisit, plus how you can apply this secret to your life for more happiness, health and wholeness.
  • How thinking about beauty can significantly reduce the amount of stress you have in your life
  • Why focusing on living more beautifully has made me happier, skinnier and more successful

As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement.


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-The appreciation of beauty

-The abundance of beauty

-The watering of beauty

-The slowing down over beauty

-The pace of life that provokes beauty

-When you see beauty, speak it


-Encompasses everything about what drew me to France in the first place

-Looking at it from an adult’s perspective, I see that she always has a choice

-Make a decision about what kind of life you want to life

-Based on that decision, determine your mindset

-Remember, no one applauds over tiny shifts – it takes time to see the results you want and that will be noticed


-Pursuing a beautiful relationship and marriage

-Living out a beautiful marriage

-Activating our dreams of what a beautiful lifestyle looks like (in Ashburn)

-Planning and taking risks to live out some of our beautiful dreams (like traveling internationally with kids)

-Slowing down and taking note of what strikes and moves us

-Keeping memories together

-Adjusting expectations to allow for as much beauty possible


-It helps me set my priorities and know the difference between priorities and preferences

-My stress is reduced = my body weight is more aligned

-I have learned to change my relationship with food and with pleasure

-The focus of beauty keeps my life simple and uncomplicated – helps me say ‘no’ when I need to

-Beautiful living is not measurable or able to be compared – therefore there is no finish line, no accomplishment, no comparison. It has helped me detox perfectionism from my life.


Laura Scatena

“I’ve been listening to an episode of #TheConfidencePodcast every day, plus consuming all of the content in The College of Confidence! As a former runner, I know how that feels but I just wanted to thank you for this recent podcast. I have been feeling stuck in my weight/body stats for the past 6 years! Your podcast helped me understand that others go through this and it actually helped me become more confident on my recent decision to do less/minimal cardio and focus on strength-training, pilates, and yoga. For me, this was not easy as I was routinely touted as the “cardio queen” always taking several classes at the gym and doing way too much but I didn’t realize it until too late. It took my back to be thrown out at the gym in 2016 to learn that God was telling me to stop. I am stubborn and got back into shape to do my cardio again but again was disappointed in lack of results (yes, after consulting with professionals, i.e., at least 4 trainers, a nutritionist, several doctors, etc.) Wish me luck and am looking forward to more motivating podcasts!

Forever grateful,


Let’s chat briefly about being an overachiever or perfectionist … because I want you to know that those two things will severely handicap you as you pursue living beautifully.

If you don’t know exactly what you want in life you will spend all of your time spinning in circles, stressing out over how to “be successful.”  Success is easier to achieve than we make it out to be. If you’re an overachiever, this probably resonates with you; it’s hard to know what’s “enough” when you have convinced yourself that you just need to “do a little more,” “be a little better,” or “just be a little skinnier.”  These are all finish lines that keep moving and will always keep moving.  I used to be obsessed with trying to be “successful” according to society’s standards, and the more I checked the boxes of what I thought I was supposed to do and of who I was supposed to be, the less satisfied and more stressed I felt. The more I chased the moving finish line, the more the finish line moved and the more empty I felt. I decided to take the reigns back in my life – and I started that process by deciding for myself what “success” means for me.

Do you have a definition of success for yourself?
Or are you chasing success without really knowing what you want? 

If you don’t know exactly what you want and how you want to feel, I encourage you to spend some time journaling, mediating and praying over what it is that you really want in life, and, more specifically, how you will determine each day if that day was successful or not.

You see, my life became about 1000x more beautiful when I stopped hyper-focusing on the “finish line” of what I wanted to accomplish and instead starting micro-focusing on what I wanted to feel and how I wanted my day-to-day lifestyle to be. For me, “success” is lightness. It is joy in my heart. It is the art of living beautifully and confidently. It is having margin and time with people. It is being present. It is challenging myself and learning something every day. It is growth. It is being able to live intentionally in love and to walk it out daily, without giving into stress, negativity or small thinking.  For me, “success” is to really live.

You have to believe that who you are and what you do matters, because it does. Your success – whatever that definition is for you – matters.

Onward, my friend. I believe in you and I’m here to cheer you on!
Confidently yours,

BTW – If the topic of knowing that you’re successful resonates with you, I’ve got eight coaching videos ready for you, specifically on this subject that we’ve just posted in The College of Confidence and they’ll be ready for you to access as soon as you grab yourself a spot >  … did you know that The College is a on-demand resource that has hundreds of coaching videos for you in our coaching library – and the ability to connect with me personally to help you with clarity and courage as you apply what you learn?

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