HOW TO MAKE MORE CONFIDENT CHOICES 

PODCAST #263

In this week’s episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

• How to make more confident choices – especially when you have multiple good choices and aren’t sure how to trust yourself
• The principles of self-efficacy and how to implement them for yourself
• The surefire way to trust your choices 100% of the time

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The three C’s in life:

CHOICES

CHANCES

CHANGES

You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.

HOW TO MAKE CONFIDENT CHOICES

-There are always going to be obviously bad choices, then also good ones, but sometimes it’s not so black and white.

-Sometimes we like making bad choices because we want the excuse, because we don’t think we deserve better, or because we haven’t taken the time to see what we really deserve.

-Making good choices starts with making the choice that you matter.

-Making good choices starts with wanting what’s best, wanting the best choice.

-Making good choices doesn’t mean making perfect choices.

Confident choices come from a place of confidence – of trust.

The more we learn to trust ourselves, the better we will feel about the choices we make.

Start seeing yourself as a trustworthy person to yourself.

Practice trusting yourself – practice exploring the worst-case scenario and focus on your come-back from it.

THE PRINCIPLES OF SELF-EFFICACY

Self-efficacy is an individual’s belief in his or her capacity to execute behaviors necessary to produce specific performance attainments.

It is a reflection of confidence in one’s ability to exert control over one’s motivation, behavior or social environment.

HOW TO IMPLEMENT THEM FOR YOURSELF

• Choose today to do something that you will be proud of tomorrow.
• See yourself as a person of growth, in transformation.
• Trust that you can figure out the next best step.
• Believe that you can do hard things.
• Take the pressure off yourself for perfection.
• Focus your energy on what you can control today
• Know that you can control more tomorrow, as the day comes and unfolds, according to the needs you figure out you will need.
• Have faith that you are smarter than you think you are and that you will continue to grow in wisdom and be able to implement that too

THE SUREFIRE WAY TO MAKE CONFIDENT CHOICES 100% OF THE TIME:

The surefire way: walk in faith.

The breakdown of that:

-Control what you can, let go of what you can’t.

-Know that God has a purpose for you and will work things out for your good

-Permanent is a relative term

-Anything can change + miracles happen

-There is more flexibility to life than you think

-You have the ability to grow and change, and so do others

-Listen to your gut and talk to God

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Hello Trish,

Thank u, Thank u, Thank you!! My therapist introduced me to your podcasts & shared with me that this particular message Impostor Syndrome is a Must Listen! Boy, was she ever raised right! I have struggled in this area pretty much my entire life! And it has caused me to isolate myself  & paralyzed me to do nothing. I would volunteer at hospitals, and become so overwhelmed with the “whispers”of bein inadequate & like I didn’t belong, they are going to find out I’m not smart etc.; it would cause me to become so anxious & frozen with fearful that I would talk myself out of it & not return.

The 7 steps you shared are so clear & practical. It is not about me, and I didn’t realize it then but that uncomfortableness was growing & stretching & strengthening me. I need to keep showing up & focus on Contribution & Value, it is not about me!

I could go on & on as each point was so encouraging & enriching!

Thank you so much for sharing your gifts & honesty

May God continue to bless you

-Lavita