5 SIMPLE WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK 

PODCAST #262:

In this episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

• Why we get stuck in the trap of caring about what other people think in the first place
• How to break the cycle
• Statements to help you refocus your emotional energy in a more productive and life-giving way

As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement.

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WHY WE GET STUCK IN CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK

We convince ourselves that others determine our worth and value.

We all want to be at the big kids table.

We want to be heard and noticed.

We want to know that we are special.

We want to fit in – and we want to stand out.

We want validation.

HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE

Create your own system of validation.

-Know who you are.

-Know what matters to you.

-Know you matter to God.

-Know that you are growing.

Let go of your hope to win the popularity contest.

-No one wins this contest.

-Everyone has people who don’t like them.

-You can’t control people’s opinions

-Opinions are fleeting and fickle

Take more action on honoring your heart

-Follow your dreams

-Honor what makes your soul sing

-Tell your story and be yourself

-Let your quirkiness shine

-Meet more people and make more friends

-Focus on spreading love and light in the world

-If you aren’t polarizing then you probably aren’t making a difference in this world

-Trust the plan God has for your life

STATEMENTS TO HELP YOU REFOCUS YOUR MINDSET AND ENERGY IN A LIFE-GIVING WAY

1. I am loved and I have value.
2. It’s okay for people to disagree with me or not like me. It’s not okay for me to not honor truth in my life.
3. God made me as I am and has given me a story; I will not apologize for that story or compromise myself to win anyone’s affection or favor.I have God’s favor and that is all I need.
4. People liking me or not liking me has nothing to do with my value or place in this world – everyone is entitled to their own opinion, as am I.
5. I choose to spend my emotional and mental energy on things that bring me joy and that serve me to the move the needle forward in life.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Hi Trish,

I’m Michelle, a loyal listener to your podcast. First of all, thank you for doing what you do. I’ve enjoyed your positivity and enthusiasm on body image and confidence, topics that I struggle with every day. I can relate to your story, though I wouldn’t say I ever struggled with perfectionism. For me, I believe I developed the mindset of “not good enough” early on and so I’ve always half-assed things, and spiraled into an eating disorder from that root feeling of not good enough.

I know you offer plenty of resources that can help me on this topic, but I’d love to connect with you and just ask for one piece of advice – what is the most important thing you recommend for people who feel they are never good enough? What one habit should I start implementing to gradually forgive and accept myself, and hopefully love myself?

I really appreciate your time and any advice you can offer. Thank you again for being a positive mentor to me, even though you don’t know me. You are awesome.

Thank you, Trish,

-Michelle Chalkey