HOW TO KEEP YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF

PODCAST #258

In this episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

• How to be someone of your word – to yourself
• 7 sneaky reasons we break our promises
• Identifying the #1 promise you want to keep right now

As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement.

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WHY ARE WE TALKING ABOUT PROMISES?

“It’s too easy to break your promises to yourself, after all, no one knows but you.”

Brandon and I were talking about this topic one day driving to the gym. He wanted to know what made it so easy for me to always follow thorugh – and it’s because I learned to keep my promises.

Pinkie promises – Ellie is learning this – I loved this concept growing up and I was that kid obsessed about keeping a promise.

HOW TO KEEP PROMISES TO YOURSELF

BE SPECIFIC.

Your promise is like a contact – and it needs to be clear and specific. Shoot, write out a contract.

TELL OTHERS.

CREATE A LOGICAL, SUSTAINABLE GAME-PLAN

HAVE CONSEQUENCES OR REWARDS.

TRACK SOMETHING DAILY

(Consistency Tracker)

EXPECT RESISTENCE / TEMPTATION

Plan ahead

WHAT WORKED FOR ME:

I made promises to myself that I broke for years – because I didn’t value myself. I also didn’t trust myself once I broke enough promises.

So, to change, not only did I change how I thought about myself (but that took time) … but I needed an immediate help to assist and propel the change, so I got others involved who would help me keep my promises.

Jenny Hokestra (binging and therapy)

Melissa Marquez (recycling)

Brandon Synan (life)

7 SNEAKY REASONS WE BREAK OUR PROMISES:

1. We get distracted.
2. We don’t schedule time for what we need.
3. We let fatigue shout in our ears.
4. We create “tomorrow” as a magical place.
5. We expect instant results and get discouraged when it takes time.
6. We let peer pressure speak louder than our wants
7. We use the “lazy” card

IDENTIFYING THE #1 PROMISE YOU WANT TO KEEP RIGHT NOW

What matters the most to you?

And it needs to be for you, not because others told you you should care.

Now, strip that goal back and answer, why haven’t you reached it?

What types of promises do you typically break to yourself?

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

-Bob Goff is in #TheConfidencePodcast virtual studio next week! Pre-purchase his book at http://amzn.to/2G3RQ6M

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Hi Trish,

Where do I even begin?!

I have been listening to you now for 6 months. I was first introduced by a friend who encouraged me to work on my own personal development along with a healthy lifestyle change so I could learn to manage my anxiety and lack of confidence.  I was hooked the very first time I heard you. I think I binged 6-7 episodes in just a few days.  Your kind words have been so powerful and encouraging to me.

A couple weeks ago your podcast focused on little and easy ways to have more courage and honestly it couldn’t have come at a better time. My whole life I have struggled with showing the world the real me and pushing myself to see my true potential. You have given me the courage to look at my rejections in a more positive light and know that I pushed myself to new limits even if I didn’t get the outcome I wanted. I so look forward to my date with you every Tuesday as I commute home from my job as a mental health social worker.

Wondering if you have ever done a podcast on building confidence to overcome jealousy? I couldn’t find anything when I searched but feel like it would be a very beneficial subject for me.

Thank you thank you thank! I hope I get the honor of connecting in person! Much love.

Sarah Campbell