CREATE MORE FUN, CREATE MORE MONEY IN YOUR LIFE
PODCAST #253
In this episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:
- How creating more fun in life really will make you more money (and less stressed)
- How to figure out what exactly is “fun” for you
- How to stop taking ourselves so seriously (and to reduce our stress levels in the process)
As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement.
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MORE FUN, MORE MONEY.
The more fun I have with life, the more fun I bring into business – the more people are drawn to me – the more easy it is to “sell” anything – the more results you get – the more money you make – and the more fun you can have because the cycle is so, well, fun.
In sales –
I had to learn to make it fun for my prospect
I learned to have fun by being my full self, unapologetically
I made exercise fun and goals attainable
I made sure my people enjoyed their time with me – kept them consistent, more results, more money.
Fun is a lifestyle choice.
It is an attitude you can channel.
We all yearn for it – we crave it – and we admire those who can live it.
Why can’t you be one of those people?
Talk about creating your own differentiation in the marketplace – as long as you are having fun you will always be standing out! Plus, fun makes ‘work’ feel less like work, making you enjoy it more – and the more you enjoy something, the better you will be at it.
We learn and thrive through play and fun as children – why do we think this should change? At what point do we start taking ourselves and our lives so seriously?
HOW TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU?
Get to know yourself
Explore and experiment
Go back to what you used to love to do as a kid
Open up “non-productive” time
Turn on your “fun-o-meter” and start paying attention
IDEAS FOR FUN:
Whatever makes you laugh
Whatever makes your body feel alive
Whatever stimulates your brain
FOR ME >
Doing linguistics
Playing with Ellie
Running or a challenging workout
Shopping
Scrapbooking or playing with photography
Learning
Snowboarding
Coffee or wine with girlfriends
STOP TAKING EVERYTHING SO SERIOUSLY – TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF!
At what point did you start taking yourself too seriously?
Do you realize that no one cares about you / judges you the way you think they do? (They are more concerned about themselves!) – use this knowledge to your benefit!
The less pressure I put on myself, the more I enjoy life – and being myself – and then more ultimately I thrive. When I thrive, everything jives.
Pressure and stress are negative motivators – and frankly, they don’t work as well as positive, affirmative ones.
SOME FINAL THOUGHTS:
Being present matters more than being productive.
How will you measure your life?
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Dearest Trish,
I am currently finishing up my third year in a very rigorous clinical psychology doctoral program and I honestly don’t know if I could have made it this far without you. I discovered your podcast during my last month of maternity leave and you helped me find the courage to go back to school when all I felt like doing was staying home with my baby and hiding from the things that scared me: not just school and all the challenges therein but also trusting my baby in the hands of others. What ensued was the most challenging year of my life. My baby wasn’t sleeping more than 2 hours straight, his first nanny was terrible and possibly abusive. I was an outsider to a totally new group of classmates who had already become very close (and in this kind of program, your cohort is your community), I had quite a long commute, and faced a traumatic conflict with a supervisor. I was the only person in my program who was raising as young a child while in school and I felt incredibly alone and unseen. I was in the midst of post partum depression which reverted back to just my regular, awful depression I had had years prior. Because I have so much psychology education and am a therapist in training, I thought I should be able to pull myself out of it without therapy or medication. And while I hated that long commute, I now see that in some ways it saved me. It was the pocket of time when I got to listen to all of my favorite podcasts like yours, and it became my daily time to transition from mommy to grad student. And for a little while I had room each day to actually shed those responsibilities and just be me. And in those hours, your encouraging advice urged me to keep putting one foot in front of the other. I don’t think I can adequately convey how difficult even that was for me. But I would put on your podcast as I walked from bus to train to school and would literally put one foot in front of the other and allow your words to settle in me. You reminded me I could do hard things. You advised me to take on three small habits that would push the needle forward and those habits truly have helped me succeed. And in one of my all time favorite episodes of any podcast, you allowed me to think of myself as a superhero. You activated a ripple effect in my own being, an upward spiral as we call it in my field. I sought my own therapy and began getting the support I needed. I pushed myself to do things that scared me. And little by little, things transformed for me. I succeeded in getting through that year and am now rocking my school/career obligations. I feel strong. I have accepted that this journey is hard and is going to continue to be hard but I have faith and confidence that I can do hard things and that I will get through this. I have tough days where I feel less of this, and my depression peeks out from under the covers. And you continue helping me transform my defeatist self talk into an empowering new script. You said in a podcast that you have a goal of helping us rock who we are. I want to tell you have helped me get to a state where I am doing that. My challenges have not disappeared: . I am very sensitive to criticism and I work under people who share it harshly and frequently. I have more demands on my time and energy than I ever have. I moved even further from school this year because of my husband’s work situation. But I get to have you as a weekly companion on my commute! And while there were many steps going into this process of me becoming stronger and more confident, you were one of the main gears propelling it forward and setting it in motion to start with. Trish, I was trying to walk through a deep, long pit of molasses and you were holding the rope. You helped me come out stronger on the other side and now I am holding a rope for others. I cannot thank you enough.
Thank you again,
Lily