HOW TO REPLACE BAD HABITS WITH GOOD ONES

PODCAST #247

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re chatting about:

• How to identify the habits that hinder you
• Identifying the mental thinking habits that block you and breaking up with them
• The secret to forming good habits that last

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As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement.

IDENTIFY THE HABITS THAT HINDER YOU

Start with just three and write them down.

Identify why you have faulted to those habits.

Next, identify why they don’t serve you anymore.

Habits are automated behaviors that we have taught ourselves – so don’t forget that you are boss, not your habit – and habit reformation is a very feasible process for anyone to do.

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KNOW WHY THEY HOLD YOU BACK AND DECIDE TO BE READY TO BREAK UP WITH THEM

Have a ceremony.

Separate yourself now from who you used to be.

Personify the habit and detach it from you.

Change the way you speak about yourself and your tendencies ( I “always” … / I’m a ____ thinker / etc)

NOW IDENTIFY WHICH ‘THINKING HABITS’ NEED TO GO

Stinking thinking is a habit. It’s a mental approach to the world around you.

Notice what are the first natural recourses to which your mind goes – and assess from there.

Ask yourself what kind of thinking habits you have – and then identify which one needs to go.

Examples:

Negative thinking

Anxious thinking

Productivity obsessed thinking

Busy thinking

Stressed thinking

Fearful thinking

BREAK UP WITH THEM BY REALLY UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE WHEN YOUR MINDSET CHANGES

In the same way you break up with someone in a bad relationship, look at your thinking patterns as toxic.

Just because you know something is bad for you doesn’t make it any easier to break up with.

Work through the breakup and the newness – the leaving of your comfort zone – by being OPEN. Know that new thinking will make you feel free and different and focus on where it will take you. In the meantime, in the process, focus on being at peace and at one with the unknown. It is a reinvention / transformation process – and remember, if how you were thinking before didn’t work for you, then what do you have to lose by trying it a new way?

THE SECRET TO FORMING GOOD HABITS THAT LAST:

Knowing that you can be consistent – that you have stamina – and that you are capable of change.

Stop thinking about yourself statically; think about the possibilities

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So, how do you stay consistent?

Consistency Tracker – establish a pattern

Believe you can keep the pattern

Expect small steps and small wins

Get yourself in a community and surrounded by people who are striving to thrive like you

Believe that you can change and that that change is sustainable

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

For the past 3 years I have listened to your podcasts and read your inspiring emails.  I found this podcast during time where I felt overall defeated. I felt like nothing I did mattered. All the hardwork, education, and attempts to build a healthy network seemed to be time wasted. I’ve spent many years feeling like I didn’t measure up to my peers and family’s expectations. Everyday felt like a failure. Whether it was my looks, ability to communicate, intelligence, talents, etc,  I always felt like I needed to do better. Growing up in an authoritarian and critical household as child created a very anxious and insecure adult. I know my parents did the best they knew how. I learned to live with that. However, your podcast has helped me realize that I am enough, just as I am. I don’t “need” to improve anything, but rather I have the opportunity to better myself. Since listening, I feel that at 32 years old I am hitting my stride emotionally. I have taken necessary measures needed to boost my confidence. Although I still have more work to do, I know that I could not have moved forward without your help. Just know that the work you do MATTERS. I am very blessed to hear your words and your stories. Thank you for sharing your personal journey and providing guidance in helping us all achieve more confidence.

-Alicia Edwards