In this week’s Confidence on the Go we’re going to be chatting about:

  • Dealing with disappointment – how to process it and power ahead because of it
  • Four positive steps to process and deal with disappointment
  • Preparing yourself to lean into disappointment rather than lean away from it

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Most recently, a publishing agent who said my “writing voice” wasn’t the “right fit”.

In my past, my disappointments are varied, and sometimes self-created feelings of being overlooked:

>Not making the Olympics

>Not having the perfect body

>Not being a sports model

>Not having a photographic memory

>Not meeting my husband in college like I envisioned

>Not eating perfeftly

>Not having my first book be a wild success

>Not being invited to an event

>Not being asked to speak at a conference or on a podcast show

>Not having the perfect family or perfect parents

>Not having a client reach their dreams

>Not having a marketing launch go as planned

>Not always feeling at my fullest energy level while pregnant

>Not being as successful as ___________.

>Not being able to change someone

Disappointments are simply life experiences that can be reframed.

4 positive ways to deal with disappointment


Understand what it is about the disappointment that you feel that is so jarring to you – what does it make you feel sensitive, vulnerable or exposed? Process these feelings, and then power through to more action and know that in every disappointment lies a compensation and a lesson on something – whether patience, perseverance, timing or depersonalization.

If you decide that you will use your disappointments to power ahead instead of cower behind, then you have mastered the art of getting value out of disappointment.


We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain or regret or disappointment. –Jim Rohn

The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trail with humility. –Thomas S Monson

If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. –Henry David Thoreau


  1. Dial in and be still.  

Manage your emotions, increase your self-awareness, write and figure out exactly what the deeper fear is that is hiding and lurking in your disappointed feelings. Is it rejection? Is it fear of not measuring up? It is frustration?

  1. Depersonalize the disappointment.

Remember that everyone in the world experiences the emotions of disappointment, even children. When you learn to not panic in feeling disappointment, you will be open to look more objectively at the situation and understand potential possibilities from multiple perspectives, helping you see that the disappointment really might not be something to take personally or internalize.

  1. Define expectations.

Go back to your core values and to why you care about that thing you are disappointed about in the first place. Define your expectations of putting yourself out there in life and remind yourself that pursuing a full version of yourself and of life does not come without mountains to climb or setbacks to readjust. The process is often the greatest teacher in life, and so expect to learn from a disappointment – and remember to think with an abundance mindset, since most of our disappointments are based off one or two people’s opinions, think about how many billions of people are in the world who might have had a different opinion.

  1. Dig deep and try again.

The most important thing to do when disappointed is to realize that disappointment is a reflection that you care. Caring and being engaged with your full heart in life is a gift and a beautiful thing. Let yourself feel and then let that feeling leverage your success forward. Dig deep and go try again at whatever it was – because what you are doing and pursuing obviously matters to you. Disappointments and derailments are not failures or disqualifiers – they are motivators and accelerators.


Disappointments are a sign that you are doing something that matters – that you are stepping outside of your comfort zone in life and are pushing the envelope.

Too often people lean out from the possibility of disappointment – of disappointing themselves or others, or of being disappointed about life – that they prefer to play it safe and not do anything at all. There is no justification in playing it small or safe in life to save yourself the potential disappointment when you realize that disappointment is simply part of life – you will either be disappointed to live a half-lived life or you will live a full life with a few disappointments along the way.   Avoiding disappointment is not protecting you…it is actually harming you.

Lean into disappointment by using the steps outlined above and by not letting it define you. It’s okay to grieve a disappointment, but set a timeline and limit on yourself to do so.  By learning to deal with disappointment, you can leverage it for your own good.



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