In this week’s episode of Confidence on the Go we’re chatting about:
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Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trail and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
– Helen Keller
Systematically, one of the problems with perfectionism is that it focuses on external success. The problem is that external success is extremely fragile if you don’t have internal success backing it up.
What does your success mean to you?
How does your success affect your life and that of your loved ones?
Do you know that success has no bearing on your value as you?
Have you considered that your commitment to success is a method of contribution to the world, not as a means to justify your existence in it?
Determined and defined in part by what someone else thinks.
Measurable and achievement oriented
Achieved without the rendering of anyone else’s judgment
Immeasurable and character oriented
Both contribute to happiness, but without internal success, external success will feel empty, fleeting and unsatisfying.
To know what you want, we need to first help you with some ideas of what you can actually have. External goals are often easier to set because we are surrounded by people who are achieving things, we are in a society that celebrates professional growth and financial success – materialism helps us in setting external goals, so what is it that will really help us as we set internal goals? The answer? You have to know what you really actually want.
Personal peace and real joy
Confidence and freedom to express yourself
Courage to speak up in life
Resiliency to show up emotionally and to never give up
Quality friendships based in authenticity and honesty
Fruitful marriage with a partner who walks life with you
Creating space for creative expression and development
Intellectual openness and growth
The ability to be present in the moment and day
Abundant relationships with loved ones
Leadership and investing in the lives of others
Generosity of spirit and action
Staying true to one’s moral integrity
Communication and connection with God and a walk with Him
Optimism and hope towards the future and towards ones growth
Sustained attitude of gratitude and engagement in life
Contribution to creating a legacy of meaning
Leading a life of love and expressing love generously
Whether it seems obvious or not, we actually have more control over our internal success than our external success. Our internal success all lies within the power of our choice, the power of our thoughts, and our mindset and determination to live out the circumstances of our life in a way that matters.
Internal success is different because there is nothing to prove as in the case of external success – instead, there is just growth, there is just living, there is jut engagement.
To pursue these values you have to first know what it is you want to purse. Write them down and meditate upon them. Be honest with yourself about where you are lacking and where you haven’t focused on what you say and claim that you want. What you value is what you focus on … so take time to figure out what exactly it is that you value. You can say you value something, but if you actually do value it, you will focus on it, and when you focus on something, you will take action on something. Then make a commitment to do a mini self-assessment every morning and every night … ask yourself, What internal success do I want to invest my focus in today?, and then, What internal success did I successfully increase today through my focus and attentiveness?
What do you really want in life over the next month?
How do you want to feel when you go to sleep at night?
What is the first emotion you want to feel when you wake up in the morning?
Where is there lack or deficiency in your mindset?
How would a mindset change impact your experience of life?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What descriptions do you want people to use more frequently with you?
My internal success for the month of __________ looks like:
More _______________ in my heart.
Less __________________ in how I walk through my daily to-dos.
Feelings of love and satisfaction over _________________ in my life.
I hope you had a great holiday weekend!
I first heard you when you were a guest on Lisa Druxman’s Motivating Mom podcast, and I just had to look yours up. I downloaded some that I thought I needed to hear- specifically #168. After listening to that, I needed more! I’m a first time mother of a 10 week old little girl, and I, admittedly, do not love my body. I’ve always struggled with self image, and after having extra ten pounds hanging on for dear life and stretch marks, I’m not thrilled about it. But, I heard you speak, hearing your personal struggles and the mantras that you teach your daughter, and I connected with you and was inspired by you.
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