STRONG SELF-CARE

EPISODE #168

In this week’s episode of Confidence on the Go we’re chatting about:

• How having strong self-care can substantially shift your success in life (and why we are foolishly resistant to self-care at our own detriment and at the detriment of others)
• The difference between tangible and intangible self-care
• A self-care assessment and action-plan on how to put more strength into your self-care

“Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily.”

–Tia Walker

Just a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners out there – thanks for being part of the community of contagious encouragement.

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QUOTATIONS ON SELF-CARE

“You are in a much better position to serve others when your basic needs are met and your “tank is full”. –Michael Hyatt

“Caring for your body, mind and spirit is your greatest and grandest responsibility. It’s about listening to the needs of your soul and then honoring them.” –Kristi Ling

TANGIBLE SELF-CARE

Nutrition

Exercise

Stretching

Activity

INTANGIBLE SELF-CARE

Sleep

Growth

Peace

Presence

Slowing down

Disconnecting

Boundaries

Emotional growth

WHY WE RESIST SELF-CARE:

We think it’s selfish

We think we don’t need it

We think we are an exception

We think it is weakness

We don’t understand the value of it so we don’t prioritize properly

We were taught to put ourselves last

We were taught minimal self-care

We believe the lie of business

We resist slowing down

We are afraid of being still and taking care of ourselves

We have created a lifestyle of martyr syndrome

SELF-CARE ASSESSMENT – 80 QUESTIONS

(Modified from justbalance.ca)

PHYSICAL SELF-CARE – 10 Questions

I eat regularly and nutritionally

I exercise daily

I get regular health care for prevention

I floss regularly

I take time off when not feeling well

I do a physical activity that I enjoy outside of a “workout”

I get enough sleep

I wear clothing I like

I take day trips or mini-vacations

I prioritize stretching my body and working on mobility

PSYCHOLOGICAL SELF-CARE – 15 Questions

I practice daily mediation

I have a purpose statement for my life

I take day trips or mini-vacations

I take times away from electronics

I make time for self-reflection

I listen to my thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and feelings

I reach out to supportive people in my life

I keep a journal

I read for pleasure

I read for learning and personal development

I am learning a new skill or am pursuing an interest

I engage my focus in things other than work and family / hobbies

I am curious and constantly learning

I say “no” to extra responsibilities sometimes

I practice doing one thing every day that scares me

EMOTIONAL SELF-CARE – 10 Questions

I spend time with people I enjoy

I am mindful of my thoughts and I start my day off with positive affirmations

I stay in contact with people who are important to me

I recognize and acknowledge my strengths

I re-read and re-visit favorite things of mine

I allow myself to cry

I find things that make me laugh

I express values in what I believe in

I speak up regarding my feelings and preferences

I am generous with compliments and kindness towards others

SPIRITUAL SELF-CARE – 15 Questions

I have peace in my heart that is renewed daily because of my active faith

I make time for reflection

I spend time with God in prayer and in His presence

I spend time in nature

I am open to inspiration

I am hopeful and optimistic

I am aware of non-material aspects of life

I try to surrender my desire for control in life

I am open to not knowing

I identify what is meaningful to me and notice its place in my life

I meditate, pray or sing daily

I have experiences of awe

I contribute to causes in which I believe

I read inspirational literature or listen to sermons / talks

I believe in the practice of forgiveness and I am always actively giving grace to others

RELATIONSHIP SELF-CARE – 15 Questions

I spend intentional, un-distracted time daily with my partner, just connecting

I schedule regular dates with my partner

I am in touch with my family members

I make time for my close friends and community

I spend time with my pets

I am open to making new connections and relationships

I ask for and accept help when I need it

I share my heart with someone I trust

I am open to new friendships and relationships and love to learn from others

I believe that there is a reason for every person that comes into my life in any capacity

I am committed to loving myself well so that I can love others well

I believe in fighting fairly with my partner

I am in the practice of being the best communicator I can be

I prioritize communication as a core value to a successful relationship

I practice listening to others with my full-attention

WORK SELF-CARE – 15 Questions

I love what I do

I am passionate about learning and growing in my field

I believe in doing my best, and bringing my best self, to the workplace every day

I take breaks throughout the day

I know when to stop at the end of the day and leave work at work

I make quiet time to complete necessary tasks

I don’t procrastinate my dreaded tasks

I set limits and boundaries with peers and colleagues

I get regular support with workload concerns

I communicate about my work life and day with my partner

I negotiate for my needs

I seek out mentorship

I am available to mentor and invest in others

I lead others well in the workplace by setting an example of gratitude and positivity

I write notes or cards to co-workers, bosses, clients or customers and connect with my community

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Sara R. Lefevers

Dear Trish,

Let me just say, as I am sure you hear on a daily basis, that you inspire me!!! I discovered you from a Facebook video that a friend of mine shared.. After watching the video I went to your page where I was overwhelmed with encouragement! Let me just say, I needed it!!! At that time I had taken a pretty big risk to follow my dreams. I quit my job of 6 years which was a very toxic environment and left me constantly negative. I was working at a publishing company out of convenience dreaming about changing the world. So I left, and the opportunity I left for, sadly fell through, and  I was unemployed for 3 weeks! Which to some does not seem like a long time, but for me it was an eternity!

I questioned if I had done the right thing? Was the Lord in this decision? Was I dreaming too big? But I just had so much peace to pursue, pursue, pursue… so I did! And guess what, I got a job working for a State Representative who is running, and very likely to win, for US Congress. Some say I am too much of an optimist, and too idealistic about changing the direction of this country, but I know that with God it is possible. Our country needs people to fight for it, to fight for the home, and preserve our freedoms. I do not feel qualified to be that person, but I am so willing!

The Lord has been so evident in this whole process and I know that this is just the beginning. Government is my passion, and I know I am on my way to making a big difference in my state of Florida, the country, and Lord-willing the world – I just have to continue to follow His voice!

I want to inspire women the way you have me. I honestly believe that women who build up other women instead of tear them down are the most beautiful, confident women in the world!

I just ordered your book, and am so excited to read it!!! Seriously Trish, I know you are not perfect, but you are such a refreshing breathe of fresh air. Your sunshine and happiness is contagious! I can see Christ in you, so thank you for inspiring through your message.

Sara R. Lefevers

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