ALWAYS BEHIND, NEVER ENOUGH.
In this week’s episode we’re chatting about:
- What to do if you always feel behind and never feel like you’re enough
- What these anxiety-evoking feelings actually mean
- A practical way today that you can get rid of these tag-along perspective parasites
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When themes continually resurface in my life, I know that they are something I need to podcast on and really dig deep into reflection. The always behind feeling is something I have been familiar with as a working-from-home-mom and it’s a theme that is consistently displaying itself in the lives of my clients.
So, what does it actually mean?
WHY DO WE FEEL THIS WAY?
- Comparing ourselves
- Unrealistic expectations
- Unhappiness, looking for a place to direct that feeling
- Inability to just be
- Disconnect from our true selves and our value
- Achievement-minded by-product
- Pursuit of perfection rather than excellence
- Societal loss of art of living
- Over-complicated lives (of our choosing – simplicity is available)
- Lack of personal boundaries (input relationally and contextually)
- Not enough built in and realistic margin
Something about us is lacking, or doesn’t measure up.
The moving finish line or the race to nowhere.
WHY DO WE FEEL THIS WAY?
- See all of the above listed reasons
- Inability to give ourselves grace
- Personal refusal to celebrate small successes and growth
- Listening to the wrong voices
- Not putting enough truth into your mind (we must saturate ourselves)
- Living in past regrets, failures or disappointments and over-personalizing them
- Choice of mind-set and approach to life
SO, WHAT DO THESE FEELING ACTUALLY MEAN?
That you’re normal!
STRATEGY TO GET RID OF THESE PERSPECTIVE PARASITES:
Realign your expectations and your goals by going back to a very basic mantra, you can use mine, or create your own variation of it, but the main thing you must convey is that your greatest mission and purpose is to love. If you have lived with love, then you have lived a day well lived ….meaning that there is nothing about your day that could speak to or qualify as “always behind” or “never enough”
I am beautiful.
I am loved by God.
I am loved by my family.
Today, I will love others.
We must saturate our minds with simple truth to override the complicated web of internal pressure and inadequacy with which we have filled our minds.
I pursue two simple things daily: to love well and to learn.
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
I have wanted to send out an email for over a year now, and wanted it to be perfect, but we are not. 2016 is all about verbs, doing!
I have listened to all of your podcasts from the beginning. I am on the road a lot and your words of encouragement help me get through the day away from family and grueling hours. I feel like you are a close friend. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, raw, candid, real and faith based knowledge and experience.
My wife and I filled out the Annual Guidebook, and talked about it together. I can’t tell you how great this was for us to discuss and share with each other. What a great tool!
My word for 2016 is REST, I would like it to be Joy, but I need to have rest first! 🙂
Rest is a verb, and I plan to tackle that one outside of many others from the Annual Guidebook. Oh, and your 2 part on Type A and Type B, was very insightful. We have the exact same dynamic as you folks do!!
Thank you so much for all you do, how you do it and more importantly WHY you do it.
Looking forward to 2016 and your weekly encouragement!!
Jimmy Addington and the Addington family from Washington State