LOUD INADEQUACIES

 EPISODE #131

The thing that is really hand, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. –Anna Quindlen (American author, journalist and Pulitzer Prize winner)

In this week’s podcast episode we’re going to be talking about:

• How our deep, hidden fear of inadequacy blindfolds us from seeing our true selves
• My most recent lessons I learned first hand this month on how, even though I am hyper-conscious of my mental state and of my fears, how lingering and deep messages of inadequacies lay dormant underneath our own awareness and how I am learning to uproot them and weed them out
• 5 ways you can start proactively weeding out your fear of inadequacy from your heart

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INADEQUACY:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

What is it?

A fear of being found out as less than, not enough, being insufficient, having lack. Our deep inadequacies often are that which make us feel inferior, but as we see from Eleanor Roosevelt’s wise words, the devastating thing about inadequacy is that it is a feeling that only we ourselves can give to ourselves. When we buy into the whisperings of inadequacy we give ourselves consent to allow ourselves to feel inferior for whatever reason. It is absolutely ungrounded and absolutely self-perpetuated.

How does it express itself?

Insecurity

Negative thinking

Overuse of sarcasm

Fear of vulnerability

Perfectionism

Pride

Living with a drive to prove oneself to others

Materialism

Body dsymorphia

Eating disorders / control addictions

The only place inadequacy really exists is in our minds.

Switching our internal dialogue changes everything.

{Lessons from living in Loudoun County}

{Lessons from running the Army 10-Miler}

{Start telling yourself the following truths}

I am strong physically.

I am even stronger mentally.

I finish things stronger than I start them.

What would happen if we started talking more openly about our fear of inadequacy instead of making it more powerful by pretending it doesn’t exist?

WHAT TO DO TO DEAL WITH FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY:

When you come up a bit short of excellence, you still win. When you strive for perfect, you’re just never quite good enough. It’s like being in an abusive relationship—with yourself.

FIVE WAYS TO WEED OUT INADEQUACY FROM YOUR HEART:

1. Make the decision to start believing that you are enough! You may not believe this at first, but by simply making the decision to change your way of thinking you are already well on your way to making change.
2. Perfection is an illusion. It does not exist. Make a conscious decision to stop pursuing it and to stop buying into the lie that it is something that exists, let alone something that you even want.
3. Know that everyone is desperate for love. By focusing on loving others you will free yourself to worry about impressing others and you will be able to escape some of anchors of inadequacy that weigh you down.
4. Name your supposed, self-perceived inadequacies and then imagine telling a friend them.
5. When insecurity jumps back into your mind, think of it as an opportunity to proactively practice being kind to yourself.

Steve Jobs quote:

“Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you, and you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use.”

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Mia

No problem! I used your advice yesterday in a request for a promotion and guess what? My manager agreed to it. Previously I had felt that if my manager saw my value they would instigate it and I was always too scared to. Thank you for giving me the tools to unlock my confidence.