In this episode we’ll be chatting about:
To you for being you!
Thank you to everyone who has shared this podcast show and thank you to everyone of you who considers yourself a “Be More-er”…someone committed to being more of who you are.
Definitions of perfectionism include:
Definitions of excellence include:
the pursuit of being outstanding
the state of exceling
the quality of greatness
the act of pursuing your very best
Black and white thinking
Inability to ever live up to standards
Feelings of fear about taking on something new out of fear of failure
Belief of never being _______ enough
Focus on what you do / achieve for worth
Ability to celebrate positive growth and progress
Skill of being able to live in the present moment
Balance in thinking
Ability to live in the grey
Belief in being ______ enough
Focus on who you are for worth
I thought perfectionism was in my blood and hardwired in my personality; I feared that I would never be able to live with a different, more relaxed mentality. Furthermore, since as a perfectionist I found comfort in black and white thinking I struggled to understand how I could possibly be successful, worthwhile or even happy if I abandoned my mindset.
My pursuit of perfectionism manifested itself seamlessly into practically every area of my life:
To break free from perfectionism we must break free from the pendulum swing of black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking, a concept simple to state but so very challenging to live out if one has never known anything otherwise. Over the years I have been proactively pursuing recovery from perfectionism, yet, at my very nature, find myself falling back into old thought patterns, because, well, they’re comfortable, and what is comfortable feels safe. Most recently someone proposed a new strategy to me that I believe can change and catapult the recovery process completely through a mere substitution of focus.
It’s time to throw the punches back. Throw a punch at the lie of perfectionism – and give yourself some grace today. Snap your crutch in half. Throw the comfort of the pursuit of perfectionism out of your emotional arsenal for life and start to shift your mind to a new way of thinking. Here are three practical strategies you can employ today to punch perfectionism back:
Download your free copy of the Punch Out Perfectionism one-page worksheet at www.trishblackwell.com/perfectionismworksheet Again, that download is totally free, and is a tool I recommend you start using today: get it at www.trishblackwell.com/perfectionismworksheet
The simple act of completing this daily worksheet will set you up to really punch out perfectionistic thinking in your brain. The worksheet will take you no more than two minutes to complete each morning and serves as a very simple tool that you can use to actively engage your mind to choose excellence.
The Punch Out Perfectionism worksheet is a necessary discipline for those who really are committed to overcoming the toxic, detrimental and life-stealing qualities of perfectionistic thinking because so often our thinking is so deeply engrained that we need to actively fight against it. Our perfectionistic thinking was not birthed overnight, nor will the freedom we can find from it come overnight.
The second strategy that really works is to spend time intentionally dwelling on excellence. As in the words of Paul to the Philippians, “think on whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
Consider the following open-ended statements:
Pursuing excellence in my health means __________________________
Pursuing excellence in my relationships means ______________________
Pursuing excellence in my purpose means _________________________
Pursuing excellence in my finances means _________________________
Pursuing excellence in my nutrition means _________________________
Pursuing excellence in my fitness means ___________________________
Pursuing excellence in my balance of life means ______________________
Pursuing excellence in my role as a parent means _____________________
Pursuing excellence in my role as a partner means _____________________
Pursuing excellence in the pursuit of my legacy means __________________
Again, the definition of excellence is the “pursuit of being outstanding,” and the definition of perfectionism is “the refusal to accept anything short of the standard of perfection.” The definitions are pretty clear. You are at a crossroads in your thought life and the direction you choose to continue along in your journey is up to you. Will you cling to perfectionism or will you embrace excellence?
Get an accountability partner to support you on your new commitment – this can be either an accountability coach, a counselor or even a friend who wants to walk the journey for themselves alongside you. The key is to have someone who knows about your new intentions and who also believes in the freedom that is available to those who can break free from perfectionistic tendencies.
Jeremy (from Periscope!)
Hello Ms. Blackwell,
I would like to start by saying that I am a long time listener to your podcast and have personally benefitted from the knowledge and skills that I have learned. I also have been catching your Periscopes. I really enjoy them and value them as a teaching and reinforcing tool. You have been a constant source of encouragement for me and I am honored that I could return the sentiment in my own small way! I look forward to hearing from you on periscope or podcast soon!
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