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I have been listening to you for years and have always appreciated the inspiration and encouragement. While I have gained invaluable lessons from your wisdom, I still feel an overwhelming burden or disappointment in myself when it comes to truly making lasting change. For months now, I have been asking myself why it is so hard when I have been given all the great mental tools by teachers like yourself and I am wondering if I am on to something…
You have mentioned, and it is clear that you are a Type A personality. Your bio and the experiences you have shared over the years in books and podcasts reveal your propensity for self-discipline and high standards. For you, this turned into compulsion, which you battled and won, and your success story “emerged.” You were a personal trainer, which means you were able to hold others accountable as well as yourself, and additionally, were capable of managing others in your previous employment.
I admire all that you are able to accomplish as a result of your determination, but I have honestly been thinking lately, that we are just an entirely different species.
As a Type B, there are very few things I do habitually. Even things I (claim to) love immensely. I can’t think of many beyond eating, and brushing my teeth. I battle in my mind about getting started and dance around productivity by allowing my brain to run wild in multiple directions.
In college, I cost myself probably an entire letter grade in my GPA because of things like misconstruing due dates, drowning myself in disorganized research, losing my jump drive, or ineffectually submitting a massive term paper.
I make appointments for myself but rarely take them seriously. I create rules and break them instantly. Each week I create these lofty aspirations but my enthusiasm soon deflates. I rarely ever feel like I am put together. Instead, I am just going through the motions and not truly living life. As a result, I want to wrap myself up in television for hours until guilt finally forces me to do something with my day. There is always a cycle.
I go through phases where I am inspired and determined to remain organized, and consistent, but it always falls off eventually. I am the complete opposite of compulsion. Sometimes when I listen to you, I think to myself, “I wish there was something inside of me that would force me everyday to do A,B,C…even if it were to the extreme.” There is nothing in my existence that remotely resembles extreme.
How can I ever expect to develop consistency when I work odd hours and no two days are ever alike?
We are wired so differently that I don’t know whether or not it is feasible for me to emulate a Type A personality and Type A solutions. I feel powerless to overcome change long-term and reinvent myself the way I’ve always dreamed. Should I just accept what I am not capable of as part of who I am? Should I accept that inconsistency is as much a part of my genetic make-up, as protection and guarding our home is to my German Shepard?
Even with all your great advice, I find it difficult, if not confusing to walk the tight rope between wanting and seeking improvement within myself, and accepting myself for my flaws and shortcomings. What should I change, what should I accept, what should I embrace?
A disheartened Type B
Brandon is my “in-house” expert on Type B’s and delivers some major motivation strategies he has used to help him be successful in work, fitness and life.
1. Categorize your goals – put them into either a “concrete” category or “passion” category
2. Create self-imposed deadliness and convince yourself they are real
3. Broadcast your goals to the world to make yourself follow through
4. Imagine trying to show up someone who doesn’t like you or expects you to fail
5. Just start – you don’t have to know how to finish, but you do have to start
6. Set up an accountability system and network for yourself
7. Chunk your progress by working in blocks and reward yourself as you complete each block of time
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