Sometimes the best way to master a skill is by learning what not to do. I hope you use this list to empower and sharpen your own self-confidence. Which number from the list below do you most need to work on? Share your comments below and let’s encourage one another to become more and more authentically true to our confidence each and every day.
#1 Confident people don’t judge others.
Confident people know that how you judge is how you will be judged in accordance, so they don’t waste time self-inflicting judgmental drama. They are so confident that there is no reason to judge others in order to elevate themselves, so instead of judging others, confident people build others up.
#2 Confident people don’t worry about the opinions of others.
Confident people know that negative feedback and outlaying criticism are simply parts of life and they have learned how not to take it personally. They know who their true friends and family are and don’t get distracted by the naysayers who want to bring them down. Highly confident people focus on things in life they can control, not on the opinions of others which they can’t.
#3 Confident people don’t avoid the truth.
Confident people know how to face their fears and the problems in life that arise. They do not run away from conflict or confrontation and instead embrace the opportunity to address problems as they come.
#4: Confident people don’t take the easy road.
Confident people do one thing every day that scares them. They have trained themselves to embrace fear and they know that fear is simply false evidence appearing real. They understand that fear is the resistance factor that actually strengthens their character and prepares them for their future.
#5: Confident people don’t make excuses.
Confident people simply don’t waste their time with justifications and excuses. They take full responsibility and ownership for their actions and decisions and thereby know that excuses are the mark of weak-minded efforts. Their confidence in themselves gives them strength to continue investing in themselves to overcome their short-comings.
#6: Confident people don’t find joy in pleasing others.
Confident people know that the opinions of others are fleeting and out of their control. Pleasing others only sets one up for failure and disappointment; it engages one in a race with a moving finish line.
#7: Confident people don’t pretend to be someone that they aren’t.
Confident people adhere to being their most authentic self. They know that by being themselves, they are honoring their purpose. When aligned with this congruence, they know that they can live out the life of their dreams. They know that pretending to be someone they aren’t, or even wishing that they were different, robs them of joy and of their true selves.
#8: Confident people don’t require permission to act.
Confident people have a strong sense of their calling and they have held on to the gift of dreaming big. They think with a “can-do” attitude and they give themselves permission to dream and succeed. They don’t wait for someone else to tell them they can do it, they know inherently that they can do anything they set their minds to.
#9: Confident people don’t make comparisons.
Confident people refuse to compare themselves to others; they focus instead of trying to be the best version of themselves each and every day. Every day is an opportunity to become a better and improved version of them. They know that comparison with others drives people to stagnancy, feelings of inadequacy and depression. They celebrate their individuality by celebrating their personal strengths and weaknesses.
#10: Confident people don’t stay comfortable.
Confident people know that life begins when they step outside of their comfort zone. They consciously pursue being uncomfortable so that they are always in a state of growth. They know that once they push past the discomfort, they will have learned something great about themselves, will have emboldened their courage and will have put themselves on the path to success and real joy.